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YesTribe Quiz Questions

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YesTribe Quiz Questions

Everyone loves a pub quiz - what an awesome way to have a laugh with your friends, family and colleagues over a video call and who knows - you might even learn something! But maybe you’ve never put one together or written the questions before. Seems like too much work, right?!

Well Quizmasters, have no fear! YesTribe Hampshire Leader Gilo Ward has done all the hard work for you - click on the links below to download question and answer sheets for a mixture of games nights.

Each week during lockdown Gilo has been writing a different set of questions so once you’ve done one set, come back and there’ll be more the following week. There’s all sorts in there from True or False, General Knowledge, Music Rounds, even Who Wants To Be A Millionaire!

Enjoy and why not post on The YesTribe wall with a photo and how you got on :)

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CoronaTime with Kids

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CoronaTime with Kids

There are SO MANY awesome education initiatives coming out of this crisis so we are pooling them together in a one-stop-shop for helping to entertain kids if they are being kept at home.

Isolation doesn’t have to be so isolating! There are still plenty of things we can be doing to keep our little people stimulated and in good spirits so let’s be kind to each other and share tactics.

If you have suggestions of things to add to this list, send them in using this form.

Thanks to Matt Zdun for creating this infographic that highlights 12 free streaming services to boost mental and physical wellness. Why not decompress with a digital painting video from Ctrl+Paint or learn how to decorate a drip cake on the baking s…

Thanks to Matt Zdun for creating this infographic that highlights 12 free streaming services to boost mental and physical wellness. Why not decompress with a digital painting video from Ctrl+Paint or learn how to decorate a drip cake on the baking streaming service Cakeflix?

  • Ask kids to start a diary and write in it every day - practise creative writing with feeling, including all their senses

  • Find and help frog spawn (from yours or a neighbours or community pond) to grow in tupperware in your kitchen for the kids to watch, draw and log how they grow

  • P.E. With Joe - Tune in to Joe Wicks' YouTube channel every morning at 9am sharp for a live home workout designed especially for children. You don't need any equipment, but you will get 30 minutes of fun.

  • Joe Wicks may have beaten him to the 9am slot, but from 9.30am you will be able to join Steve Backshall on YouTube, Instagram and Facebook where he will be covering information from "habitats to holotypes, parasites to pademelons...bringing the wild world into your living room". We'd recommend accessing Steve's Facebook site for the video content as your first point of call from Wednesday 25th March

  • #EarthLiveLessons was the idea of wildlife biologist and broadcaster Lizzie Daly. She has built a community of scientists, conservationists and wildlife filmmakers to share and make free content available to school children. The content is shared directly on Lizzie's YouTube channel

  • Friends at the Galapagos Conservation Trust have put together some brilliant free resources together about all things Galapagos. Find out everything you've ever wanted to know about the chain of islands made famous by Charles Darwin and its utterly unique wildlife. Some great content on geographical processes and sustainable development. 

    You might also want to check out Discovering Antarctica; and Discovering the Artic for your geographical fix of information. Some excellent resources across all three websites.

  • NatGeo Kids provides a vast array of learning materials for children. From content explaining what the coronavirus is, through to challenges designed to tackle the challenge of plastic pollution. The site really has it all.

  • You can also get a similar set of resources from WWF if you wanted to get a little bit wilder with your lesson plans and materials for children.

  • Travel to and explore the USA, Nepal, Peru, the U.K., Greece, Japan, and many more through video games - yep, they can be educational too! With travel and education being affected by the outbreak, many turn to virtual tools for exploration and learning. While Virtual Reality (VR) might help you to visually see a place, video games can offer a more immersive storytelling experience. So, is a review list of the best of them!

  • Take part in virtual run/walk: Rundinavia! How about using your one outdoor activity of the day to take part in a 3,000km family adventure? Record your daily kilometres, send them to me each week and I will send you a weekly update of how far you have gone! Click here to register and get your starter pack

  • Create A Fill-My-Bucket List:

    Get together with your kids and draw up a (fill my) ‘bucket list’ of things they want to do during a quarantine. You can just write it as a long list that you tick off, or you can chart it in other creative ways, including different points allocated for different activities and effort. For example, to reach 100 Happy Points, over your time together. The key here is that you are engaging with them, getting not just their buy-in but really taking into account their feelings, their needs and their wishes.

  • Rack up Some Rhythm:

    Make a conscious decision to create a rhythm to your days. Schools do this. Try to build in little touchstone moments, segments the kids love, come to expect and look forward to, sprinkled through the day. Examples for include:

    • Play a board game in the morning

    • ‘Magical reading hour’ (more about that, in a moment) – which we literally ring in with a bell, each time;

    • Daily green smoothie;

    • Piano practice

      Special Time (again, more about that in a mo). All of these segments come at a predictable time in our routine.

  • Ready to Read Aloud: We call it ‘magical reading hour.’ Reading aloud to/with your kids has so many benefits. From building attention span and vocabulary to nurturing empathy, creativity and imagination as well as providing a launchpad for myriad deep, juicy discussions about history, politics, music, social context… not to mention literary analysis, of course!

  • Special Time: This is the awesome sauce that relieves behavioural issues and sibling rivalry. It’s quite simple but incredibly powerful. Set a timer and spend a short amount of time (usually between 10 and 20 minutes – certainly not more than 30) giving your COMPLETE attention to ONE child. That is key. It is one-to-one time with a guarantee of no interruptions (Read about how to do Special Time when you have more than one child). AND the kid gets to lead 100%. It is their time, their choice. They get to chose what to play or not play. You can have some safety limits but that really should be it.

    This is about them. They lead. You follow. Your main job is to pour your delight into your child. Focus on what they are interested in, for those 10-20 minutes.

  • Be positive and supportive. Do not fix, rescue or ‘adjust’ their ideas, plans and creations.

    Your warm attention and joyful connection is like balm for their soul. And as you ‘fill their happiness bucket’ in this way, you really re-set them emotionally and have a bigger chance of seeing the best of them in the hours to come.

    A connected child is a contended and cooperative child. One note…sometimes Special Time creates so much safety that it actually allows kids to show us MORE of their pent-up emotions/tears/tantrums. That’s another story. That’s them being smart and using your attention to offload those feelings…you can read more about how that in this guide to Special Time. But for now, know that Special Time is a real go-to for maintaining a connected family.

  • Bake and Cook Together. Because it’s fun… and then you can eat it.

  • Spend Time in Nature:

    You have to be apart from other people… that does not mean you have to be apart from a forest or field or beach. Nature is just the best way to re-set, re-energise and spend HOURS playing without even remembering or thinking about screens. In fact, if the kids are squabbling and you add space, that is often enough to completely change the mood, giving them a new focus as they naturally take to climbing, racing and imaginative play in the woods.

  • Skype Playdates with Family and Friends:

    Anything to give the kids (and you) some extra connection and FaceTime with people they love and who love them AND to give you 15mins off to think or, you know, go to the toilet.

  • Let the Music Play:

    Music is healing and uplifting. Play music, sing, dance. Explore music linked to books you are reading together. Have a dance party in the kitchen. Make up songs together. Or, pick up some instruments and have an impromptu jam session.

  • Milk the Resources:

    There’s plenty online that can make good teachers. For this short time at home, consider using educational apps, play books on audible or Spotify, watch documentaries, use online thinking games, sudoku, and logic problems, and download activity sheets or books.

  • Get Physical:

    Do as much roughhousing, full-body style play as you can pull off. Play tag, hide-and-seek, wrestle, have pillow fights, sock fights, balloon pong, bucking bronco, airplanes, wacky races.

    Even if you play for just 5 minutes a day but do it with your full heart your kids will thank you.

    The more you all giggle together, the happier your time together will be – not just in those moments, but after, too, as laugher is really one of the best ways to relieve stress.

  • Join Wild Dog Fitness for online classes for adult and kids

  • Get on YouTube Tutorials:

    This platform gives plenty of step-by-step in art, crafts or science projects, providing a whole focus for a day or week’s worth of self-paced projects. Letting your kids choose what to do keeps them more engaged. You can do the project with them for more connection or let it be something they do on their own, while you use the time to catch up on chores or your work.

  • Do a Daily Challenge:

    If you are trying to pack in some education, you might find your children resist.This can happen because they’re used to associating school with (enforced) learning and you with time off.

    Try making this more fun by daily challenge up on the fridge or pinboard.

    My kids love this, not least because it is always optional. They get to do it if and when it feels fun to engage with. You can try this with subjects they are studying, from numbers counts and multiplication to language skills, or try some challenges less obvious educational bent (while being educational!). There are 10 great challenge ideas here.

  • Get Support and Connection for you:

    You won’t be able to take good care of your kids and create ‘wonder and joy’ at home if you are overwhelmed, underwater emotionally or struggling.

    Do whatever you can to top up YOUR cup. The best way I know if Listening Partnerships, which are free, can be done online and are such a great way to offload tension and re-find your own centre. Get this free guide to Listening Partnerships to get started.

  • Don’t Shrug Off Self-Care:

    Meditate, do some yoga, chant, sing and dance for you…on your own or WITH the kids. Like Listening Partnerships, self-care is about keeping yourself as grounded and uplifted as you can.

    The more resourced you are, the better you’ll be able to respond to your kids. You’ll do better being creative and making this strange time we find ourselves in a positive time they remember.

  • Plan In “Surprises”:

    Rhythm is important, but so is being crazy, spontaneous and surprising your kids. There’s plenty of ways to mix things up:

    • Hold a candlelit dinner

    • Plan a movie night with popcorn

    • Camp out in the living room overnight

    • Play an impromptu game of charades

    • Hide a string of clues or a treasure map to find their breakfast

    These ideas have sparked my creativity in our own homeschooling experience, helping us connect, have fun and turn this ‘challenge’ into a time to remember… fondly!

    It won’t always be easy, with rainbows and unicorns, so here’s the biggest thing to remember: Be kind and forgiving of yourself along the way…

Since many kids are/will be home from school, sharing an awesome list of ideas from a parent who homeschools.

  • Online resources:

    • BrainPop

    • Curiosity Stream

    • Tynker

    • Outschool

    • Udemy

    • iReady

    • Beast Academy (Math)

    • Khan Academy

    • Creative Bug

    • Discovery Education

  • YouTube Channels:

    • Crash Course Kids

    • Science Channel

    • SciShow Kids

    • National Geographic Kids

    • Free School

    • Geography Focus

    • TheBrainScoop

    • SciShow

    • Kids Learning Tube

    • Geeek Gurl Diaries

    • Mike Likes Science

    • Science Max

    • SoulPancake

Lots of board games, library books (and Kindle), tinkering/upcycling with household junk, etc.

Some resources to help with kids at home:

  • Scholastic has created a free learn-from-home site with 20+ days of learning and activities. https://classroommagazines.scholastic.com/support/learnathome.html

  • Pretend to travel the world. Go on a virtual tour of these 50 famous museums

  • This is the awesome free curriculum that we use. Everything from preschool activities to 12th grade is here! https://allinonehomeschool.com/

  • List of thinking games by grade: https://allinonehomeschool.com/thinking/

  • More awesome free learning websites that we like to use

    • https://www.starfall.com/h/

    • https://www.abcya.com/

    • https://www.funbrain.com/

    • https://www.splashlearn.com/

    • https://www.storylineonline.net/

    • https://pbskids.org/

    • https://www.highlightskids.com/

    • https://kids.nationalgeographic.com/

    • https://www.coolmath4kids.com/

    • http://www.mathgametime.com/

    • https://www.uniteforliteracy.com/

    • http://www.literactive.com/Home/index.asp

    • http://www.sciencekids.co.nz/

    • https://www.switchzoo.com/

    • https://www.seussville.com/

    • https://www.turtlediary.com/

    • https://www.e-learningforkids.org/

Massive thank you to Hand in Hand Parenting and IBEX Earth for some of these suggestions.

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Saying yes to backpacking with kids

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Saying yes to backpacking with kids

Travelling with kids is arguably a little harder than the freedom many of us are used to as young adults, but Jen Williams decided not to let her two young’uns become a barrier, and packed their bags to go chase a far off dream.

Back in our twenties, we both (separately) did the whole backpacking thing  - no ties, no planning ahead, beers at breakfast time, tiny rucksacks, partying until the sun came up – and we had a brilliant time! Since then, we’ve lived overseas and travelled a decent amount for work but I’ve always kind of dreamt of packing it all in and going backpacking again for a while. However, living just outside London in full on suburbia and having a three year old made that seem a bit of a distant possibility!

And then I got pregnant again and maternity leave loomed in the future – a time which I did enjoy the first time but also perhaps found a tiny weeny bit mind numbingly boring. Babies really don’t do very much and, whilst they’re very cute, days can definitely drag in the feed, wind, sleep, play routine (I’m not even sure if that’s the order it’s meant to be to be honest, something like that!)  That’s when an idea started to hatch – Sam, our then two year old, was not yet in school and babies are pretty mobile – could we perhaps pack all of their stuff into a backpack and disappear across the world on an adventure? How would we afford it? Would we cope? Would the kids cope? Was it safe? Were we mad?

Well, here we are! I’m writing this from Hoi An in Vietnam with our three year old and seven month old - half way through our trip and our third country to date. We arrived in Hoi An from Mui Ne on the night train yesterday and have spent the day dodging motorbikes as we explored the old town before heading to a traditional puppet show which both kids were enthralled by. Next country will probably be Indonesia or possibly Myanmar – we aren’t planning ahead very far.

So, how have we made this happen and what tips do we have for any other parents wanting to go off on an adventure with their babies/kids? I’ve tried to think about some of the key questions that we had before setting off and that we now have some vague answers to!

Jen holds her baby next to the sea

Jen holds her baby next to the sea

1.     How are we affording it all?

We were lucky in that we both managed to get some  (at least partially) paid parental leave that we could take at the same time. We also managed to rent out our house for 5 months through Facebook to a local family who needed some short term accommodation – this was key to making the trip happen as monthly mortgage payments would have made it impossible. Renting out the house was actually super easy – we left it furnished, we found a draft contract online, we told our mortgage provider, redirected our post and that was pretty much it! Flight cost wise, we managed to get super cheap flights in the January sales to Australia via Singapore – with the stop over in Singapore being 6 weeks long! From there, short haul flights to the rest of South East Asia are super cheap (Ryanair esque) making the travel side of things much more affordable than originally envisaged. We knew Australia would be the expensive part but we’re extremely lucky to have friends and family there who could help us out and put us up, and we lived on a diet of picnics and cans of beer from the local bottle shop! As I’m still largely breastfeeding, the baby side of things didn’t cost too much either. We are excited as we move into South East Asia to realise that we can find accommodation for £20 per night and noodles from street vendors for a couple of pounds. We’ve managed to convince the three year old to like fried rice so he’s being fed if not in the healthiest of ways! We’ve also cracked the travel side of things by taking super cheap night trains up the country which also mean we save on a night of accommodation each time.

Travelling with kid involves some packing, and then carrying when the little feet get tired

Travelling with kid involves some packing, and then carrying when the little feet get tired

2.     How do you pack enough for two adults and two children in 3 backpacks?!

Well, it’s super hard! Our bags are literally bursting at the seams and trying to get everything in before a flight/train/boat feels completely impossible – especially as we acquire random toys and buckets and spades along the way! But we’re somehow doing it. We have a blow up mattress for our toddler and a LittleLife tent contraption for the baby (which has been amazing) – and they both actually sleep in them so that’s been a huge relief! We have one car seat and one travel vest, one play mat/tent thing, a portable high chair and one tiny bag of the most precious toys that couldn’t possibly be left behind. We still struggle to be very mobile though to be honest – 3 big bags, a car seat, a baby change bag , a travel cot tent and two little rucksacks don’t exactly mean we’re travelling light. BUT we can, between us, carry it all and move down the road as a unit between train stations, looking for hotels/Airbnbs etc if we absolutely have to. The biggest challenge has been getting us and all of our bags on and off the Vietnamese trains when they stop for a brief time at the station – lifting the kids up the steep steps, throwing the bags on after them and then manoeuvring down narrow train corridors whilst the train lurches from side to side!

3-year old Sam walks along a narrow path with mountains in the distance

3-year old Sam walks along a narrow path with mountains in the distance

 

3.     How is travelling with kids different to backpacking on your own?

 This one is kind of obvious! All the stuff is the main one – I do miss having just one small backpack and perhaps a tent flung over my shoulder, rather than resembling a packhorse as we move from place to place. We have had taxis refuse to take us because of the amount of stuff until we’ve stubbornly insisted and squeezed the car to the rafters with determination. The other key difference is you just can’t go with the flow. You can’t just eat when you stumble across somewhere; you can’t spontaneously decide to sit at a beach bar for a few beers; you can’t rock up in a new town and just wander around looking for a hostel bed. You have to PLAN. And it seems every evening, once the kids are in bed (we can’t stay out drinking as we did back in the day!), we sit in whatever room we’re in with a tiny torch so as not to wake them up, and google about train times, accommodation options, shops etc. We can’t take buses/coaches on long journeys due to safety with car seats etc so we’re booking trains ahead of time; we need to make packed lunches before we set off each day in case we can’t find any shops or cafes; we miss out places without electricity because we want to be able to sterilise dummies/bottles and plug in our baby monitor; we always know the sunset time so we don’t get stranded in the dark during a rainforest walk, halfway up a hill or in a dodgy part of town; and we pack at least three changes of clothes every time we leave the house in case of toilet accidents, vomiting, rain, food spillages etc etc!. There’s a lot of admin involved in travelling with kids! Also, crossing roads and dealing with taxis with kids is definitely more anxiety inducing – we’re having to get out of taxis without seatbelts because we can’t strap our baby car seat in and some of the driving we’ve experienced means we feel this is pretty much essential. Finally, from a health side of things, we’re being super careful about antiseptic handwash, sterilising of spoons and bottles, and insect repellent as dengue fever is big in Vietnam and is something that makes me pretty anxious.

Young Sam enjoys the raised verandah in front of shipping container accommodation.

Young Sam enjoys the raised verandah in front of shipping container accommodation.

4.     Finally, how are the kids coping?

Well, it seems backpacking with a baby is actually pretty easy! Our baby is delighted to be in his carrier on my front looking at the world around him. He loves all of the  many, many random people that come up to admire him  and take photos, smiling away with no fear whatsoever – he seems to be something of a celebrity in Vietnam! He loves the beach and the sea and, amazingly, seems to sleep MUCH better without a routine and even on a night train (we use a blow up airbed wedged next to the bed to make a sort of cot contraption and then I sit up all night to check he’s ok and not rolling off!).  In the UK,  I spent the first few months after he was born with severe post-natal anxiety and I was destroying myself trying to get nap times and feed times exactly right and using ‘controlled crying’ techniques etc – but, since we’ve been away, he’s almost entirely stopped napping because he’s so excited during the day and then seems to crash out brilliantly at night (I don’t want to speak too soon about this!).  I do think he might end up developing slightly more slowly because he doesn’t have as much time on a play mat and in a jumperoo etc to practise crawling and standing, but I figure that the sensory overload of the trip will be helping him to develop in other ways so I’m not too worried.

Sam, our three year old, was the one I was worried about. He has a lovely group of little friends at home, both in nursery and through baby classes, and he’s pretty attached to them. He’s also completely in love with our dog, his grandparents and our little house. We did a lot of work to prepare for the trip. We watched films and TV shows about travelling (GoJetters, Thomas the Tank Engine Big World Big Adventures etc) and showed him the places we were going on maps and on YouTube. We told him that people were coming to look after our house and our dog was going on an exciting holiday to my parents’ house – and we made sure we emphasised that we would definitely be coming home again.

I was still a bit worried though about the break in routine and the instability he might feel moving from place to place every couple of days. But he has coped marvellously. I mean, he clearly hugely misses his friends and basically chases random kids around playgrounds to try to chat and play with them – which is generally cute but a little bit heartbreaking if he gets ignored – and, every now and again, he  has a little moan and says ‘I just really want to stroke Boda’. But, other than that, he really has loved almost every second. He’s coped incredibly well with only about 5 toys because he’s out every day exploring, studying maps, climbing up to look out points, spotting wildlife, riding on long boats, exploring crazy motorbike filled streets, taking night trains, eating ice cream, watching sunsets and going to bed far later than he really should be. He is wonder at the world around him every single day. He has hugely enriched the experience for us by noticing things that we would simply overlook – birds singing, tiny flowers along our paths, funny shaped clouds in the sky, footprints on the sand. Seeing these amazing countries through a toddler’s eyes just makes it all the more magical and this quality time spent with him is something I’m so grateful to have and will treasure forever.

So, if you are lucky to have the opportunity to go off backpacking with your kids, for one week or a few months,  we very much recommend saying yes! It has  been such an enriching experience both for our children and us and has given a very different, yet welcome, perspective of the incredible planet we get to call home.

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Good Old Fashioned Fun in the Snow

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Good Old Fashioned Fun in the Snow

The recent snow caused us to be cut-off for 4 days which was super-exciting for all of us. With all three roads into our village blocked by huge drifts we were limited to a radius of around 200m from our house. Initially, the prospect of entertaining our children within such a small area and ensuring we all didn’t get cabin fever felt insurmountable, but, we were proved wrong.

In fact, what happened was a snippet of times gone by. A time when motorised transport didn’t exist. When days were spent playing in and around the vicinity of the family home. When games and entertainment were what you made from what was around you.

Just getting out of the door proved tricky enough!

Just getting out of the door proved tricky enough!

There were some caveats, of course; we had a fridge full of food (thankfully we’d gone shopping the day the snow begun to fall), we had electricity, we had films to watch when it got too cold to be outside, and we had internet connection. So, we weren’t that cut-off at all.

Physically getting around, however, was a different story. The first obstacle we had to overcome, once the winds had died down enough to consider going outside, was the sheer depth of snow. The drifts were up to our waist in places, which was tricky enough for us adults, but for the children that meant a snow depth of chest height – the poor things were literally getting stuck in the snow!

After we dug ourselves out of our house – literally – we had to make the best use we could of our sledge to pull our son (4) and carrying our daughter (1) in a fireman’s lift proved the only way to move her without exhausting ourselves in the process. Wading through thick, deep snow while carrying a wee one on your hip is an energy-sapping affair!

The extent of our ‘world’ for 4 days, apart from keeping snug indoors, consisted of the 200m walk/wade to the end of our village where progress was blocked due to huge snowdrifts, our back garden and the field opposite our house.

So, how did we have such an awesome time during The Snowfall of 2018? Here’s my list of the Essentials for Fun in the Snow with wee children:

Activities

The main activities we enjoyed as a whole family in the field were:

  • Sledging – going in pairs or singly, we found a great run and kept rotating the sliders.
  • Snowboarding – parents are allowed to have fun too!
  • Sliding – being kitted out in winter suits and waterproofs, we were all as slidy as slidy things, so after finding a nice steep drop, we all had a good go at sliding.
  • Snowmen and igloos are also good fun, but with children as young as ours, they can easily get too cold to enjoy playing with the ‘end product’ as it can take a long time to build.

Clothing

'Zoot suits' are an essential part of adventures outdoors

'Zoot suits' are an essential part of adventures outdoors

Essential to keeping everyone happy was thermal base layers, thick winter suits a.k.a. ‘zoot suits’ and double socks inside those welly boots. With the right clothes on and the ‘morale boosters’ mentioned above, we were able to play in the snow for over an hour each day.

Staying out in the Snow

Walking back up to the top of the field every time after sledging down was a mission, given the depth of snow. Not only that, but the biting wind was sweeping across the top too. This meant fruit and chocolate bites were needed to keep everyone’s spirits up and prolong our play in the fields. When it can take well over half an hour to get everything together and everyone kitted up and out the door you need to get as much time out of your trip as possible to have made it worth the effort of getting outside in the first place! This means morale boosters are vital part of your outdoor, winter play kit.

The Result

Two weary children with rosy cheeks filled with clean, fresh air and fun, exhilarating experiences coursing through their minds with them ready to eat their dinner and flop into bed – Parenting Win!

Good Old fashioned Fun?

Too right! I thought being cut-off for 4 days with the children would drive me stir crazy. Instead it opened my eyes to see that fun time with the children doesn’t need to have bells and whistles. It doesn’t need an hour’s drive to get there. It can all happen right by your house and all it needs is some motivation (not always easy when it’s cold outside and you’re tired from just being a parent, but worth making the effort if you can), some imagination and a big sense of FUN - if you make it fun, they will most likely have fun and that is what it’s all about.

Ryan is this blog's Family Adventure Editor. Ask him questions or suggest future article topics in the comments below.

Parents are allowed to have their fun too!

Parents are allowed to have their fun too!

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EXPLORING AT CHILD’S SPEED

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EXPLORING AT CHILD’S SPEED

Messing about with water in the woods - a perfect combination.

Messing about with water in the woods - a perfect combination.

As a parent of two little children with BIG minds, it can be difficult to remember that adventures and explorations need to happen at the speed of our children and that while you may have conscious, or subconscious aims in mind, they do not.

Too often I have found myself becoming frustrated when we have set out on a mini-adventure to see a certain thing (e.g. a waterfall) or reach a certain point (e.g. a lookout point) only to have it cut short for various reasons and we never reach said waterfall/viewpoint etc.

Why do I get frustrated? Firstly, I’m only human. As adults, more often than not when we set off on an adventure, however big or small, we have a destination in mind. This may be traversing a country from tip to toe, or may just be walking up to a certain spot that you want to share with your children.

However, small children can quickly become cold, tired or, if you let them, bored. They may even start arguing between themselves, resulting in a whole lot of unnecessary upset and parental stress! Yes, exploring with wee ones is all about expecting the unexpected.

This is why I have begun to try really hard to shift my adult-minded approach to mini-adventures to think of them as periods of time, rather than reaching a certain point or getting from A to B.

Finding nooks and crannies to hide and explore are really what it's all about.

Finding nooks and crannies to hide and explore are really what it's all about.

When we head out for a woodland adventure, I’ll get the children packed up in their ‘zoot suits’ and welly boots, have some ‘snack’ in my bag (fruit to start with, then mini-chocolatey stuff to come later to keep up spirits as they tire) and usually set off with my objective in mind e.g. ‘we’re going to see the waterfall’. Note, I say my objective. As far as they’re concerned, we’re just going to play and explore in the woods.

Every part of the woods, or an outdoor exploration is as exciting as the next, if you help them with imagination and games and stories etc. So, it matter little to them whether you’re trying to get to that waterfall, or reach a certain point, they just want to explore and play in their surroundings and this WILL take a long time. Walking at adult speed is not possible unless you want to a) impose an ‘adult-led’ adventure or b) want children who’ll quickly dislike the idea of having outdoor adventures if it means they’re getting dragged and schlepped about at adult speed.

As long as you, the adult, is allowing the adventure to happen at their pace and are willing to turn back as soon as they’re cold/ tired/hungry (this can happen in the blink of an eye – no, seriously!) and to undertake portage of said children, then you’ve had a great adventure.

Young children are interested in time in the outdoors, less-so about reaching certain points. That’s how we adults approach these things and, quite probably, is how we miss out on a lot of the details around us in the outdoors.

To enjoy your adventures with young children, slow down, let go of your sense of objective and travel at child’s speed. Wander with them, daunder* with them and wonder with them. Trust me, you’ll all feel much happier.

Scots: To stroll, to saunter, to walk aimlessly, idly, or uncertainly, to wander.

Ryan is this blog's Family Adventure Editor. Ask him questions or suggest future article topics in the comments below.

This fairy door which prompted a lot of imagination play, but would have been missed if we were going at adult speed.

This fairy door which prompted a lot of imagination play, but would have been missed if we were going at adult speed.

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