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Trekking the South Downs Way

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Trekking the South Downs Way

Emma Cornthwaite hikes the South Downs Way

Emma Cornthwaite hikes the South Downs Way

My name is Emms Cornthwaite, I am ‘Mrs Yes’. My lovely and wildly adventurous hubby started SayYesMore and The YesTribe and now I help him run them.

I have travelled and worked all over the world, often leading teenage groups or groups of runners or trekkers to developing countries to explore new cultures and raise awareness for global issues… yet for all of my travels, I have never really done a solo adventure. There never seemed to be the ‘right time’ (or so I told myself) but since Covid-19 halted all my work projects, I started thinking that maybe now is the time.

Adventure Prep 

Choosing the route was easy - I grew up in Hampshire and The YesBus has been based within shouting distance of the South Downs National Park for three years so I thought, Boom! I’ve always been curious about the path and it made sense for my first solo trip walking and camping alone, that I do it in an area not too far from ‘home’ and where I knew there were people based not too far away if I got myself into any bother.

Timing was opportunistic as Dave was heading off for two weeks for his first job since the start of lockdown and my diary was flexible, and it just so happened that the weather also looked super sunny with temperatures in the 30’s for the whole week.

The retro National Trail Guide I was following backwards!

The retro National Trail Guide I was following backwards!

I decided I was going to go for the hike only three days before I set off and only spent about two hours in front of a laptop doing research, which mostly consisted of reading other people’s blogs. I figured there was no need for weeks of planning for an adventure so close to home and if I thought about too much I might talk myself out of it.

I had done no training (having sat on my bum the majority of lockdown!) and had no plan other than to follow a South Downs Way guide book from 1996 which I found in the Adventure Library on the YesBus… but had to follow it backwards as the route in the book went west from Eastbourne to Winchester and I decided to go the opposite direction.

Being a National Trail, I knew there’d be plenty of info out there - I found these National Trail leaflets really handy - and the signage on the trail was super easy to spot and follow the whole way, so I barely needed to use the guidebook.

Map courtesy of Cicerone. For an interactive Google Map with my saved spots scroll all the way to the end

Map courtesy of Cicerone. For an interactive Google Map with my saved spots scroll all the way to the end

With a dear friend and YesTriber leaving England the following weekend I decided to start on a Sunday and aim to finish by the next Saturday morning.

Originally, I thought 100 miles - over 5 days - 20 miles a day sounded like a decent challenge and definitely doable… I just didn’t account for the relentless hills and apocalyptic weather which dramatically altered my plans!

The only planning I really felt the need to do for this trip was how to travel to the start in Winchester and then how to get home from Eastbourne after I’d finished. I eventually settled on parking up at my mum’s in Southampton, begging for a ride to the start, then catching a train once I’d finished back to get my van.

I wrote a vague post on The YesTribe Sussex and YesTribe Hampshire group walls for tips from anybody who had done the South Downs Way and was blown away by the amount of comments I received - lots of advice on favourite spots to look out for and offers of help for parking, lifts, water, showers, camping spots and plenty of well wishes saying what a beautiful trek it was. With this I was fuelled with positivity for the journey and was ready to roll.

It is worth noting that The YesTribe is an ever-evolving online community of people all over the world and the group exists to encourage and empower individuals to become more brave, kind and curious and to make life memorable. This is a personal account of my through-hike of the South Downs Way and the help I received was purely good luck of having kind folk nearby who were able to help on that particular day. The YesTribe community can always be relied upon for advice and good feels during a journey but please remember not to depend upon acts of kindness during the planning of your adventure - just to welcome them if they appear.

Gear

Here is a list of exactly everything I carried with me and would recommend taking if you’re considering the trip yourself…

A backpack with lots of external pockets and straps is super handy

A backpack with lots of external pockets and straps is super handy

The majority of my kit, minus clothes and food

The majority of my kit, minus clothes and food

  • 35L backpack with plenty of pockets similar to this one (mine was a cheap and cheerful number from Mountain Warehouse about 10 years ago. No need to spend loads of money)

  • Trekking boots - definitely recommend having a solid boot with thick soles and ankle support. I read horror stories of blisters due to the uneven and harsh rocky trail and luckily I only got a tiny one under my toe thanks to the awesomeness of my boots! I’ve got KEEN waterproof trekking boots and I swear by them

  • Walking poles - I had barely any experience with these beforehand but they really helped my ankles and knees on the hills, especially towards the end of a long day and to prevent ‘walkers’ fat hands syndrome’! I borrowed this Leki lightweight set

  • For Sleeping: I borrowed a RAB Ridge Raider Bivi Bag from my friend Keith, took a lightweight sleep mat by Thermarest, a lightweight 2 season sleeping bag and a small and very squishable travel pillow

  • For sun protection: Factor 50+ sunscreen spray and a tiny 50+ face and lip sun stick from Decathalon. A sun hat, SayYesMore Buffs x2 and Sungod polarised sunnies - important as you spend a lot of time exposed to the elements and the chalky path is super bright

  • For eating/drinking: a small Jetboil, a spork, a lighter, mora knife (or penknife), a SayYesMore enamel camping mug, a 2 litre water bladder + two external 1 litre water bottles

  • What did I wear? The weather was super hot so I was aware of feeling breezy while avoiding chafing as much as possible! I wore leggings and a loose running top, walking socks & had a lightweight rain jacket stashed in an external pocket for a quick access if needed. I had a lightweight BAM hoody and BAM top, quick dry and lightweight shorts for the evenings, which I also slept in. I chose bamboo clothing as it’s lightweight, super soft and warm but also moisture controlling (in case I was sweating a bunch!). I took 1 spare pair of socks and 2 spare pants so I had a fresh pair in the evenings while washing the worn pair - no need to take a full week’s worth of underwear!

  • Gadgets: iPhone (on airplane mode while walking to save battery), smart watch recording activities (mine is a Suunto 5), PowerTraveller battery pack and solar panel. I did take my kindle but when it didn’t leave my bag for the first 3 days, I decided to part with it when I stopped over with a friend so I didn’t have the extra weight for no reason

  • First Aid Kit: I made up my own of blister plasters, Deep Freeze gel, ibuprofen, antihistamines, muscle tape and contact lens solution

  • And of course, a toothbrush, toothpaste, small bottle of shampoo (which doubled up as soap/shower gel) and my Mooncup (yep! it was my lucky week!)

Ok… that was everything! All except…

The gorgeous rolling hills of the Downs

The gorgeous rolling hills of the Downs

Food!

Who needs a meal plan!? I went to Tesco the morning I left home and bought a few packets of ‘just add water’ meals like macaroni cheese and cup-a-soups and some nut-free nature valley bars.

I then emptied my fridge of anything that would last a few days in my backpack such as celery, cucumber, sugar snap peas, apples, a whole pack of brie and bananas.

I thought I had a stroke of genius so boiled a few eggs as I thought they’d make good protein snacks too but tiny bits of shell did end up going everywhere in my bag. Needless to say, I didn’t really plan my meals very well but assumed I’d come across some shops and cafes along the way. Also took teabags and hot chocolate and coffee sachets we have collected from hotel rooms on our travels!

I find I don’t eat well early in the morning or when I am hot or exercising so I didn’t eat as much as I thought I would. I mainly snacked on veggies and cereal bars during the day and either grabbed a pub meal or a kind local friend supplied evening dinner :)

Water

The water taps were made as obvious as possible

The water taps were made as obvious as possible

There are plenty of official National Trail water taps situated fairly obviously along the trail. It’s well worth saying that many campsites, pubs and cafes along the trail are also more than happy for you fill up as you pass. As you walk the trail, you’ll cross many many MANY farms which have water troughs for cattle that are fed by mains water. You might want to boil this before drinking it though.

This link to the South Downs Way National Trail Guide to Drinking Water was super handy and I have plotted my own water stops on my map at the bottom of the page.

**Please note that I walked the trail during Covid-19 (mid August 2020) when many shops, pubs, hotels, campsites and hostels have different operating times and many weren’t open at all. If you are relying on any of the locations for food, water or shelter, always call ahead to check as these are constantly changing times and I’d hate to think that you were stuck stranded somewhere outside a closed sign after a long day.

The gorgeously bright chalk track…

The gorgeously bright chalk track…

The Summary of the Journey…

Day 1 - Winchester to Beauworth - 9.5 miles - half day - 32 degrees, not a cloud in the sky

Day 2 - Beauworth to Buriton - 17 miles - full day - 33 degrees - lots of ups and downs

Day 3 - Buriton to Cocking - 11.5 miles - half day - 35 degrees - heat exhaustion and rescue mission!

Day 4 - Cocking to Washington - 17 miles - full day - 34 degrees - a day of picnics, friends and ice cream

Day 5 - Washington to Pycombe - 12.5 miles - half day - 24 degrees - well rested and far easier conditions

Day 6 - Pycombe to Alfriston - 22 miles - full day - 23 degrees, moody weather - perfect for the longest and most exposed day 

Day 7 - Alfriston to Eastbourne (via the inland route) - 10.5 miles - half day - 23 degrees and stormy - The first mistake of the trip on the final day (see below!)

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Day-by-Day Happenings

Day 1 - I set out super chilled with no goal, only a willingness to see how I got on. No real plan, no idea of the distance I would cover, I just walked. I walked from 4pm to 8:30pm in 32 degree heat. When it started to get dark, I happened upon a pub so camped in their garden.

It was my first solo ‘wild camp’ in the UK and felt perfectly safe as all was quiet. It was a Sunday night during Covid times so the pub was shut and there was nobody there to ask permission. An old chap happened to walk by so I asked him where I might find someone to ask and he said just go for it, they wouldn’t mind so I thanked him and tucked myself into a corner of the field.

I set up my bivi bed and used the jet boil for hot water, enjoyed Mac ’n’ Cheese and a hot chocolate, a chunk of brie & some celery for dinner and felt thoroughly happy with myself. I sent a pin location to fellow YesTriber and good friend Stace Martin because he messaged to check in and said that someone should know where I was, just in case. I then buttoned down and set an alarm for an early start to beat the heat and leave early before anyone found my secret spot.

Night 1 Sleep Spot: wild camping in the pub garden at The Milbury’s Pub - thank you lovely (albeit unknowing) hosts!

Day 2 - Today involved a bit of country road walking to get out of the Winchester and Meon Valley areas. I met a couple of cyclists but generally nobody else as it was super hot. I did meet a guy traveling very light on a bike who was planning to cycle to Eastbourne and back again within 3 days so I was very impressed.

Lots of steep ups and downs, which were tough going in the heat but it was lovely to see Hampshire, where I had grown up, from a totally new angle. Lots of forest and woodland sections around the area so the shade helped with the heat.

I learned not to hang all your hopes on what people say - a cyclist will always have a different perspective of what is far away verses a walker! It was a hearty 30 degrees and I was on a mission to make it 11 miles during the morning to the Sustainability Centre for lunch. Note: their cafe has limited hours during Covid and was closed when I got there.

A nice kind cyclist told me the centre was ‘really close! Just over there, at the top of the hill at those pylons’ and so I struggled up the hill to the pylons, so ready to stop, and the centre was nowhere to be seen! It was a mile or so beyond the pylons and I was kicking myself for putting so much hope on what the helpful cyclist had said. Anyhoots, I made it to the Sustainability Centre and collapsed in the camp site under a tree where they had a compost loo and drinking tap within easy reach.

I had planned to do 19 miles but stopped at 17 that day after being offered a safe front garden to sleep in. I had stopped part way up a hill to take a photo of a gorgeous act of kindness - a lady was packing away a cute table, dressed with checkered tablecloth and fresh flowers adorned with big jugs of water and cups with a sign that said ‘Help Yourself’.

On closer inspection, there was another sign on the table that said ‘homemade flapjacks —> help yourself’. She was so kind! I got speaking to the lovely lady, Chris, who sets out this spread every day for tired travellers on the trail and she said there were no campsites nearby. Chris, her husband, son and two adorable dogs can be found on the hill on the way up Quarry Walk, just south of Buriton.

Night 2 Sleep Spot: in Good Samaritan Chris’ front garden next to her veggie patch and table of kindness!

Day 3 - This day was a scorcher - 35 degrees! I got up early to put the miles in and was glad I did as it was 33 degrees by 10am. I was struggling. The hills were tough but the long exposed sections with no shade were the killers.

I met a pair of local runners and that was all as it was so hot. Nobody was as mental as me to try the conditions it seemed! I found a temporary water bowser/tank which said ‘Drinking Water - Boil Before Use’ so I figured this was a perfect opportunity for a shower using my SayYesMore mug! I could rinse off 3 days of salt on my skin while also drenching myself to cool down. I dumped my bag and it was cool and GLORIOUS!! After that came a solid 2 hour hike with zero shade and I was ever so grateful for the now soaking wet sun hat and re-applied factor 50+! 

By the time I reached Cocking I was utterly spent and starting to see double. Up until that point I had been reluctant to stray off the path into villages because it would often mean adding on 2 miles and a downhill to get there, plus another 2 miles and an uphill to get back onto the trail. But I made an exception for Cocking, firstly because I was starting to feel unwell due to the heat and also because the village name made me chuckle!

I was heading for a pub in Cocking called The Blue Bell (cue: more giggling) in hope of finding shade, iced drinks and lunch to replace some salts. I got there and must have looked like death, the first thing the bar lady said to me is ‘we don’t do food on Tuesdays’. I didn’t care by this point, ordered 2 pints of squash with lots of ice and sat outside in the shade for an hour to cool down.

Four pints of squash later I decided to call it a day, the heat was so intense and I had some sore spots on my lower back where my bag was rubbing the seams in my leggings. I put a distress call out to the local YesTribes asking if anyone knew anyone nearby who might let me shower with their garden hose and camp in their yard and within 3 minutes I had a phone call and a knight in shining pick-up-truck on his way to rescue me! I took the afternoon to chill, catch up with Nick who let me shower, use his washing machine and set up a gorgeously comfy picnic blanket under a tree in his back garden while his curious chickens investigated their new intruder!

Night 3 Sleep Spot: In YesTriber Nick Burrows’ bell tent in the back garden after he came and rescued me. But it turns out there is a camp site at Manor Farm with shepherds huts to hire right on the path at Cocking

Day 4 - An early start after a much needed rest (I think last night’s Chinese takeaway help restore some salts) and I was back on the trail by 6:30am after Nick dropped me back to Cocking (hehe). Super hot day!

Suzanne (another gorgeously kind and infectiously smiley YesTriber) met me for lunch after I’d done 10 miles, she brought a picnic and a tub of Strawberry Cheesecake ice cream so we lay under a tree in the shade catching up on each others’ news - heaven!! Suzanne had become my unplanned and impromptu support crew from this moment forward, which I was ever so grateful for - she even let me sleep there for half an hour before I set off again and she promised to come and find me to bring dinner later that evening.

I had planned to meet with my dear friend Vicky to camp overnight at an official site. The plan was for her to pick me up from wherever I got to that day but I made it all the way to Washington, which was awesome. I thought I had at least 4 more miles (about an hour and a half walking at my pace) until I got there but just after I messaged her to say so, I saw a sign which might as well have said ‘Vicky - 1 mile’.. Oh my gosh! Only 1 mile!?! My calculations were way off!!

I was so excited I practically ran down the hill into the small town of Washington where I knew she’d be waiting for me. Suzanne visited us in the campsite and brought us some yummy homemade aubergine curry for dinner and we enjoyed a lovely evening of giggles. This was my first real campsite of the trip and I really valued a hot shower to press the ‘relax and reset’ button of my body. I realised my lower back injuries were much worse now after a long 17 mile day of continuous rubbing and the thunderstorms were looming on the horizon as the sun went down. 

Night 4 Sleep Spot: Washington Caravan and Camping Park - All the facilities of a Caravan Club site, families everywhere, parking, it’s opposite a pub which is handy, they do dog agility during the summer, a stream passes through so you can dip your tired feet and there’s a charging hut where you can plug in your electronics and shelter from the weather.

Day 5 - A restless night’s sleep thinking about whether to take a break or to continue plus, the open wounds on my lower back meant finding a comfy position was tricky. I decided that the forecast for three days of thunder and lightning plus my injuries were a recipe for infection, which wasn’t a fun prospect.

As I had to be done by Saturday, I knew I wouldn’t reach the end in two days anyway so I decided to rest up, heal my wounds and tackle the second half next week… so I took the next 4 days off. I spent them lying on my front watching nostalgic movies whilst nibbling Suzanne’s lemon drizzle cake, then had to catch a train back to Winchester where I’d left my van at my mums (it felt like forever since I’d left on that first day of walking) and headed to Wiltshire for a weekend with my migrating friend Janey surrounded by good friends, dogs and ponies - the perfect way to rest and recover! 

Fast forward to Monday, four days later - technically my SDW Day 5 - up early, drive back to the YesBus, leave the van, grab backpack and get trekking again. I was picked up at The YesBus by the lovely Suzanne once again who took me back to Washington where we walked the first 6 miles together before she headed back to her car.

She did so well as she hadn’t trekked in months and shot straight up the first hill with me, our paces were perfectly matched. It was then I realised that although I had set out to do this journey solo, the adventure was made far more enjoyable by the people who had met me along the way and answered my calls for help.

Day 5 was a great day of walking, I think it was because I was so well rested and I got a good send off from a beautifully happy and kind friend.

That night I rocked up at the National Trust Saddlescombe Farm outside Poynings. I’d read they had a campsite but couldn't find details on how to book it so I crossed my fingers as I wondered in at 7pm! A blackboard at the gate to the camping field said it was fully booked, my heart sank into my throbbing feet.

The rain was coming, the temperature had dropped 10 degrees since last week, there were no other campsites around and I really didn’t fancy wild camping if I could help it so I went in search of someone who worked there. Luckily I found a lovely Hagrid lookalike who was locking up for the night and he graciously let me into the campsite where 7 other people had verbally booked but not shown up - excellent! I set up my bivi in the field and headed off a mile down the hill in search of a hot pub meal to balance a day of snacking on little things.

A little tip - the fish and chips in The Royal Oak pub in Poynings is the BEST I have had in years! Not to be missed if you’re in the area! 

Night 5 Sleep Spot: National Trust Saddlescombe Farm, £10 per person in an honesty box. Loo with hot water taps but no showers. During Covid, they are limited to 10 people per night as the camping field is tiny. The sign said fully booked but 7 people didn’t show and as I arrived late in the day, they said I could stay. Worth calling ahead first if you can.

Day 6 - The heavy rain had finally found me overnight and so it took forever to pack up a wet camp and get going. I knew I wanted to cover 21 miles which would be my longest day so I tacked it in three sections:  Poynings to Falmer (10.5 miles), Falmer to Southease (7 miles) and finally Southease to Alfriston (7.5 miles). Stopped for ‘breakfast’ at midday at a motorway food van where the trail crosses the A27 and later stopped to brew a cup of tea under a footbridge on the banks of the River Ouse. There, I called around in search of a campsite booking for that night to spur me on to do the extra miles and get a shower.

I arrived late at a campsite full of screaming children and barking dogs but found a quiet(ish) spot and set up as the sun went down. Only then did I realise that my sleeping bag, mat and bivi were all TOTALLY soaked through from the night before!

Turns out that my top notch borrowed bivi wasn’t waterproof after all! I summoned up my courage and approached the nearest family with a campfire to ask if I could try and dry my sleeping bag at least. They were super lovely - Jesse, Sunny and their three kids Missy, Jasper and Connie were really kind and welcomed me to join their campfire for a couple of hours while I kept rotating my sleeping bag around the heat. Although I was aching for an early night after a 22 mile day, the thought of crawling into a soggy bed was not appealing and it turns out, I really appreciated their company and kindness. 

Night 6 Sleep Spot: Alfriston Camping Park, £10 per person camping. Also a Caravan Club site so lots of families, hot showers, tennis court, horse riding and fire pits available to hire.

Day 7 - It rained more overnight. I probably got about 3 hours sleep in a cold wet bed and I knew more thunderstorms were on their way to chase me towards the finish line. So, up at first light, packed and set off for the last time, nibbling on my last carrot as I left the sleeping campsite. This was it, my final 10 miles and I can be done by lunchtime.

Having had such a long Day 6 and a miserable night in a swamp, I didn’t get around to reading the guidebook about the final section of the trail. I knew that at some point this morning there’d be a cross section where the path split for horses and cyclists to go one way and for walkers to go the other - so I kept my eyes peeled. It turns out that this was a minor mistake!

I wasn’t worried at all about directions as the signage along the route had been so clear from the very beginning. I thought the fork in the path would be obvious when choosing between either the inland bridleway or the coastal walk taking me over the iconic chalk cliffs of Seven Sisters… alas! It was NOT obvious and I missed it!

I missed out on the epic Seven Sisters scenery and ended up hiking the bridleway through Jevington, which was still a lovely route passing lots of friendly horses… just a very underwhelming finish compared to the one I was expecting!

Final Thoughts

I absolutely loved my time on the South Downs Way National Trail. Although I originally set about to do the whole thing alone in the space of five or six days, I was much happier giving myself a break in the middle to rest and having other people join me on the trail.

Staying flexible and playing each day as it came had its advantages as there was less pressure to stick to a set itinerary. If I wanted to keep going further than I planned that day, then I could. Equally, having a goal to reach at the end of the day and knowing a hot shower and meal were waiting for me at the end of a day was also a great incentive to keep moving.

The main thing I struggled with mentally was motivating myself - normally I have a group to lead and keep spirits high for them but this time I only had myself to keep myself going and thats where voice notes from friends came in so handy. My friends are incredible and they know how much more a voice note means to me than a text and they really lifted my spirits when I was struggling. It’s another thing I didn’t plan for but was so glad when I turned off airplane mode if I stopped for a break and I had a few voice notes to make me smile and giggle, I really loved those moments.

I would recommend the trail to anyone, however if you didn’t want to carry all your camping gear and explore more of the villages along the way, I would stretch the journey over 10 days, pre-book shepherds huts, inns, glamping pods and AirBnBs every 10-12 miles or so and make a real holiday out of it. That’s what I plan to do at some point with my mum who is unable to carry a heavy bag due to injury. That way, we can enjoy the journey together, walk for only a few hours each day and see it a lot more of the area than I did.

My Map…

Here are the key spots I have written about - places to sleep, eat and top up water. Feel free to use the info on your own adventure!

For past and future adventures feel free to give me a follow @emkarembo

And remember, SayYesMore and #MakeLikeMemorable. Thanks for reading!

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YesTribe Weekly: Wild Waters

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YesTribe Weekly: Wild Waters

We all find different ways of feeling refreshed and putting a little adventure into our day, something to take you away from it all for a short while, and for some people in this group recently it has been wild swimming!

One member of the YesTribe posted this week that she had said yes to a sea swim despite the less than perfect weather, and I loved this! There are days when the weather is cold, windy, grey, rainy…but we still have that need for a little refreshing activity in nature, and let’s face it – the sun doesn’t always shine.

Of course, I admit, when the weather is what we often refer to as ‘miserable’, I do sometimes decide to have a cosy day indoors and watch the world outside the window! But most often, if I need nature and the weather is less than perfect, nothing stops me and I take myself out to enjoy the elements. 

My partner once picked me up from my place of work – an office at the time – after a bad day and he drove me to the beach. We stripped to our underwear as we had no swimming stuff, and raced each other into the water for a chilly swim, then drove home wearing nothing but our massive hoodies which we had in the van as we had no towels either! It was totally spontaneous – he knew I needed it, and god did it make us happy. I totally forgot about my bad day.

Enjoying the elements

Enjoying the elements

I remember swimming in rivers and lakes on so many camping trips as a child, and they were the best holidays! It was so exciting to jump into the water in the middle of nature, or walk down streams just to explore and see where they lead! One of our members, Emma, ended up going for a wild swim this week after being invited by another YesTriber, and decided to take her kids too!

I think this kind of thing is just awesome for kids – there’s something magical about releasing them into the wild, so to speak! The magic of nature, the freedom, the escape, the fresh air and fresh water! I think kids benefit massively from spending time in nature and it’s so great to see them exploring and enjoying the elements.

The kindness of strangers

I read a post this week which was asking members to remember times when a complete stranger had helped them during their travels or adventures.

Sue Wallace spoke of two occasions on her travels where some kind strangers had insisted on helping her – these strangers had invited Sue into their family home when she had been stuck for a place to stay in a different country, and they asked for nothing in return. On one occasion, Sue chose to walk two hours with the stranger’s son to help collect water, and realised the scale of their generosity where a family who did not have much, still shared what they had with her.

People who have little, still give kindness

People who have little, still give kindness

The truth is, adventures are not always smooth sailing. There are times when things do not turn out as planned or you end up a little stuck. Although we often deal with the situation the best we can and try to smile through it, there is nothing more comforting than the kindness of a stranger to relight your spirits! 

When you are stuck somewhere unfamiliar or in a situation where you can’t move forward (we’ve all had a puncture and no repair kit at some point…right?) and a stranger approaches to help you, it just lights you up inside I think. These people make everything so much better at times when we don’t expect it, and at times when we need it.

If you see someone who looks lost, stuck, or even sad – try to offer something, whether it’s a favour or just a friendly smile. You don’t know how much of a difference you could make to that person’s day.

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CoronaTime with Kids

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CoronaTime with Kids

There are SO MANY awesome education initiatives coming out of this crisis so we are pooling them together in a one-stop-shop for helping to entertain kids if they are being kept at home.

Isolation doesn’t have to be so isolating! There are still plenty of things we can be doing to keep our little people stimulated and in good spirits so let’s be kind to each other and share tactics.

If you have suggestions of things to add to this list, send them in using this form.

Thanks to Matt Zdun for creating this infographic that highlights 12 free streaming services to boost mental and physical wellness. Why not decompress with a digital painting video from Ctrl+Paint or learn how to decorate a drip cake on the baking s…

Thanks to Matt Zdun for creating this infographic that highlights 12 free streaming services to boost mental and physical wellness. Why not decompress with a digital painting video from Ctrl+Paint or learn how to decorate a drip cake on the baking streaming service Cakeflix?

  • Ask kids to start a diary and write in it every day - practise creative writing with feeling, including all their senses

  • Find and help frog spawn (from yours or a neighbours or community pond) to grow in tupperware in your kitchen for the kids to watch, draw and log how they grow

  • P.E. With Joe - Tune in to Joe Wicks' YouTube channel every morning at 9am sharp for a live home workout designed especially for children. You don't need any equipment, but you will get 30 minutes of fun.

  • Joe Wicks may have beaten him to the 9am slot, but from 9.30am you will be able to join Steve Backshall on YouTube, Instagram and Facebook where he will be covering information from "habitats to holotypes, parasites to pademelons...bringing the wild world into your living room". We'd recommend accessing Steve's Facebook site for the video content as your first point of call from Wednesday 25th March

  • #EarthLiveLessons was the idea of wildlife biologist and broadcaster Lizzie Daly. She has built a community of scientists, conservationists and wildlife filmmakers to share and make free content available to school children. The content is shared directly on Lizzie's YouTube channel

  • Friends at the Galapagos Conservation Trust have put together some brilliant free resources together about all things Galapagos. Find out everything you've ever wanted to know about the chain of islands made famous by Charles Darwin and its utterly unique wildlife. Some great content on geographical processes and sustainable development. 

    You might also want to check out Discovering Antarctica; and Discovering the Artic for your geographical fix of information. Some excellent resources across all three websites.

  • NatGeo Kids provides a vast array of learning materials for children. From content explaining what the coronavirus is, through to challenges designed to tackle the challenge of plastic pollution. The site really has it all.

  • You can also get a similar set of resources from WWF if you wanted to get a little bit wilder with your lesson plans and materials for children.

  • Travel to and explore the USA, Nepal, Peru, the U.K., Greece, Japan, and many more through video games - yep, they can be educational too! With travel and education being affected by the outbreak, many turn to virtual tools for exploration and learning. While Virtual Reality (VR) might help you to visually see a place, video games can offer a more immersive storytelling experience. So, is a review list of the best of them!

  • Take part in virtual run/walk: Rundinavia! How about using your one outdoor activity of the day to take part in a 3,000km family adventure? Record your daily kilometres, send them to me each week and I will send you a weekly update of how far you have gone! Click here to register and get your starter pack

  • Create A Fill-My-Bucket List:

    Get together with your kids and draw up a (fill my) ‘bucket list’ of things they want to do during a quarantine. You can just write it as a long list that you tick off, or you can chart it in other creative ways, including different points allocated for different activities and effort. For example, to reach 100 Happy Points, over your time together. The key here is that you are engaging with them, getting not just their buy-in but really taking into account their feelings, their needs and their wishes.

  • Rack up Some Rhythm:

    Make a conscious decision to create a rhythm to your days. Schools do this. Try to build in little touchstone moments, segments the kids love, come to expect and look forward to, sprinkled through the day. Examples for include:

    • Play a board game in the morning

    • ‘Magical reading hour’ (more about that, in a moment) – which we literally ring in with a bell, each time;

    • Daily green smoothie;

    • Piano practice

      Special Time (again, more about that in a mo). All of these segments come at a predictable time in our routine.

  • Ready to Read Aloud: We call it ‘magical reading hour.’ Reading aloud to/with your kids has so many benefits. From building attention span and vocabulary to nurturing empathy, creativity and imagination as well as providing a launchpad for myriad deep, juicy discussions about history, politics, music, social context… not to mention literary analysis, of course!

  • Special Time: This is the awesome sauce that relieves behavioural issues and sibling rivalry. It’s quite simple but incredibly powerful. Set a timer and spend a short amount of time (usually between 10 and 20 minutes – certainly not more than 30) giving your COMPLETE attention to ONE child. That is key. It is one-to-one time with a guarantee of no interruptions (Read about how to do Special Time when you have more than one child). AND the kid gets to lead 100%. It is their time, their choice. They get to chose what to play or not play. You can have some safety limits but that really should be it.

    This is about them. They lead. You follow. Your main job is to pour your delight into your child. Focus on what they are interested in, for those 10-20 minutes.

  • Be positive and supportive. Do not fix, rescue or ‘adjust’ their ideas, plans and creations.

    Your warm attention and joyful connection is like balm for their soul. And as you ‘fill their happiness bucket’ in this way, you really re-set them emotionally and have a bigger chance of seeing the best of them in the hours to come.

    A connected child is a contended and cooperative child. One note…sometimes Special Time creates so much safety that it actually allows kids to show us MORE of their pent-up emotions/tears/tantrums. That’s another story. That’s them being smart and using your attention to offload those feelings…you can read more about how that in this guide to Special Time. But for now, know that Special Time is a real go-to for maintaining a connected family.

  • Bake and Cook Together. Because it’s fun… and then you can eat it.

  • Spend Time in Nature:

    You have to be apart from other people… that does not mean you have to be apart from a forest or field or beach. Nature is just the best way to re-set, re-energise and spend HOURS playing without even remembering or thinking about screens. In fact, if the kids are squabbling and you add space, that is often enough to completely change the mood, giving them a new focus as they naturally take to climbing, racing and imaginative play in the woods.

  • Skype Playdates with Family and Friends:

    Anything to give the kids (and you) some extra connection and FaceTime with people they love and who love them AND to give you 15mins off to think or, you know, go to the toilet.

  • Let the Music Play:

    Music is healing and uplifting. Play music, sing, dance. Explore music linked to books you are reading together. Have a dance party in the kitchen. Make up songs together. Or, pick up some instruments and have an impromptu jam session.

  • Milk the Resources:

    There’s plenty online that can make good teachers. For this short time at home, consider using educational apps, play books on audible or Spotify, watch documentaries, use online thinking games, sudoku, and logic problems, and download activity sheets or books.

  • Get Physical:

    Do as much roughhousing, full-body style play as you can pull off. Play tag, hide-and-seek, wrestle, have pillow fights, sock fights, balloon pong, bucking bronco, airplanes, wacky races.

    Even if you play for just 5 minutes a day but do it with your full heart your kids will thank you.

    The more you all giggle together, the happier your time together will be – not just in those moments, but after, too, as laugher is really one of the best ways to relieve stress.

  • Join Wild Dog Fitness for online classes for adult and kids

  • Get on YouTube Tutorials:

    This platform gives plenty of step-by-step in art, crafts or science projects, providing a whole focus for a day or week’s worth of self-paced projects. Letting your kids choose what to do keeps them more engaged. You can do the project with them for more connection or let it be something they do on their own, while you use the time to catch up on chores or your work.

  • Do a Daily Challenge:

    If you are trying to pack in some education, you might find your children resist.This can happen because they’re used to associating school with (enforced) learning and you with time off.

    Try making this more fun by daily challenge up on the fridge or pinboard.

    My kids love this, not least because it is always optional. They get to do it if and when it feels fun to engage with. You can try this with subjects they are studying, from numbers counts and multiplication to language skills, or try some challenges less obvious educational bent (while being educational!). There are 10 great challenge ideas here.

  • Get Support and Connection for you:

    You won’t be able to take good care of your kids and create ‘wonder and joy’ at home if you are overwhelmed, underwater emotionally or struggling.

    Do whatever you can to top up YOUR cup. The best way I know if Listening Partnerships, which are free, can be done online and are such a great way to offload tension and re-find your own centre. Get this free guide to Listening Partnerships to get started.

  • Don’t Shrug Off Self-Care:

    Meditate, do some yoga, chant, sing and dance for you…on your own or WITH the kids. Like Listening Partnerships, self-care is about keeping yourself as grounded and uplifted as you can.

    The more resourced you are, the better you’ll be able to respond to your kids. You’ll do better being creative and making this strange time we find ourselves in a positive time they remember.

  • Plan In “Surprises”:

    Rhythm is important, but so is being crazy, spontaneous and surprising your kids. There’s plenty of ways to mix things up:

    • Hold a candlelit dinner

    • Plan a movie night with popcorn

    • Camp out in the living room overnight

    • Play an impromptu game of charades

    • Hide a string of clues or a treasure map to find their breakfast

    These ideas have sparked my creativity in our own homeschooling experience, helping us connect, have fun and turn this ‘challenge’ into a time to remember… fondly!

    It won’t always be easy, with rainbows and unicorns, so here’s the biggest thing to remember: Be kind and forgiving of yourself along the way…

Since many kids are/will be home from school, sharing an awesome list of ideas from a parent who homeschools.

  • Online resources:

    • BrainPop

    • Curiosity Stream

    • Tynker

    • Outschool

    • Udemy

    • iReady

    • Beast Academy (Math)

    • Khan Academy

    • Creative Bug

    • Discovery Education

  • YouTube Channels:

    • Crash Course Kids

    • Science Channel

    • SciShow Kids

    • National Geographic Kids

    • Free School

    • Geography Focus

    • TheBrainScoop

    • SciShow

    • Kids Learning Tube

    • Geeek Gurl Diaries

    • Mike Likes Science

    • Science Max

    • SoulPancake

Lots of board games, library books (and Kindle), tinkering/upcycling with household junk, etc.

Some resources to help with kids at home:

  • Scholastic has created a free learn-from-home site with 20+ days of learning and activities. https://classroommagazines.scholastic.com/support/learnathome.html

  • Pretend to travel the world. Go on a virtual tour of these 50 famous museums

  • This is the awesome free curriculum that we use. Everything from preschool activities to 12th grade is here! https://allinonehomeschool.com/

  • List of thinking games by grade: https://allinonehomeschool.com/thinking/

  • More awesome free learning websites that we like to use

    • https://www.starfall.com/h/

    • https://www.abcya.com/

    • https://www.funbrain.com/

    • https://www.splashlearn.com/

    • https://www.storylineonline.net/

    • https://pbskids.org/

    • https://www.highlightskids.com/

    • https://kids.nationalgeographic.com/

    • https://www.coolmath4kids.com/

    • http://www.mathgametime.com/

    • https://www.uniteforliteracy.com/

    • http://www.literactive.com/Home/index.asp

    • http://www.sciencekids.co.nz/

    • https://www.switchzoo.com/

    • https://www.seussville.com/

    • https://www.turtlediary.com/

    • https://www.e-learningforkids.org/

Massive thank you to Hand in Hand Parenting and IBEX Earth for some of these suggestions.

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Ideas to help the community during Covid-19

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Ideas to help the community during Covid-19

There are SO MANY awesome community initiatives coming out of this crisis so we are pooling them together in a one-stop-shop for helping people.

Isolation doesn’t have to be so isolating! There are still plenty of things we can be doing to help those in need in our local communities and around the world so let’s be kind to each other.

If you have suggestions of things to add to this list, send them in using this form.

  • Write postcards, emails or send video messages to elderly people in care homes who can’t have visitors. Email this one in Dorset to start off with: trinitymanor.reception@barchester.com

  • Donate blood - the need for donations hasn’t stopped and donation stations are still open

  • Volunteer for the NHS! Even if you're worried about leaving home and exposing yourself or loved ones, you can volunteer from home to contact those at risk of isolation.

  • Making masks, scrubs, scrub bags etc for essential workers - more info and instructions here

  • Download a free toolkit for Community Leaders

  • Join your local Covid Mutual Aid group and offer your support - Covid-19 Mutual Aid Local Groups are small groups of people setting up independently in communities to support vulnerable people in their local area through the outbreak. 

  • Cook/prepare a school lunch, post it on the OLIO App withe the #cook4kids for families to collect. No-contact pickup is available. If you have food that will go to waste, share it :)

  • Volunteer with the British Red Cross within your community - more info here

  • Purchasing gift certificates to local restaurants, record stores, and brick & mortar retailers to provide an alternative revenue stream

  • Hosting virtual happy hours with friends and family to bolster human connection

  • Support Foodbanks - use Google to find your nearest one and see what they need to support those who need it the most

  • Support the homeless community - see the Crisis website to find out how

  • Buying tickets to future community events to show support for the greater community

  • Go and work on a local farm to help feed the nation!

  • Offering grocery store runs or meal delivery to the elderly and immuno-compromised

  • Contributing financially to food banks for children who have lost access to daily meals during school closures

  • Donating to artists, performers, and venues to show solidarity and continue the celebration of the arts

  • Creating wishlists for direct delivery to non-profit organisations and shelters that cannot currently receive in-person donations

  • Providing online attendance options for classes, concerts, church services and more to connect communities to meaningful experiences

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This is very ambitious, but here goes

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This is very ambitious, but here goes

This is an account of social media fulfilling its potential to do good in the world, at a time when that message is especially important. By Chris Lee.

Early in March I left my prized Alpkit sleeping bag - the one that kept me warm while cycling across Canada - on a train bound for Newcastle.

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I'd thought it was a train bound for York until we'd been sitting in York station for about thirty seconds. The next three seconds involved me realising the train was about to move; that if it did I'd miss my important and imminent meeting; and that I had to get myself and my stuff out of the train sharpish.

The sleeping bag was mistakenly abandoned in the frantic fluster that followed.

"Bugger", I thought, when I noticed its absence after the train departed. Bound, irretrievably, for Newcastle.

I asked the platform attendant where to report lost luggage. "Try the ticket office", she offered.

I asked the ticket office if I could report lost luggage. "Try the kiosk", they countered. "We're LNER, you need TransPennine". The first allusion to the multi-company rigmarole I was about to encounter.

I asked the kiosk if I could report lost luggage. "Sure. What was it? What did it look like? Which train? Where did you get on? Which coach? Which seat?" They noted everything down in a book, and told me to wait for a call.

Which I did, all morning. The prescribed time came and went, while images of my suspicious sleeping bag package being detonated by The British Transport Police filled my mind. "See it. Say it. Sorted."

I took to Twitter in an attempt to expedite things. LNER put me in touch with TransPennine, because they operated the train I'd been on. TransPennine put me back in touch with LNER, because they manage the station at Newcastle. LNER put me in touch with Northern, because they manage Manchester Victoria where I'd joined the service.

By the end of this I had the call sign of the train when I'd been on board, it's new call sign, it's current location, and various other bits of information. But no further information on the location of my sleeping bag.

Then, later in the afternoon as I was beginning to abandon hope: "Chris, great news! We've got it! I've just spoken to the conductor and he's now back in Newcastle so it must have been on a trip today!"

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I was elated. Getting it home from Newcastle was the next logistical challenge, preferably without me having to go and collect it in person: A return ticket to Newcastle from home costs about the same as the sleeping bag did new.

So this time I took to Facebook, and more specifically to The Yes Tribe: An excellent bunch of people with the tagline "where strangers are just friends waiting to happen".

"This is very ambitious", I typed. "But here goes."

I wrote a post recounting the spiel above, then asked if anyone living near the station could pick it up and send it down to me. "I will of course pay for the postage and add the price of two pints (or equivalent treat) for your troubles."

The silence I expected was short-lived. "I have a friend who will be passing through Newcastle late tomorrow evening so could potentially pick it up?" "I can pick it up on Wednesday / Thursday if you’ve not found anyone yet." "I'm going to Newcastle next weekend so can if no one has got it by Saturday!"

The offers poured in. Seven people, formerly strangers, all willing to go out of their way to help. A few days later the postman handed me my sleeping bag, safe and sound.

The YesTribe was founded in 2015 by Dave Cornthwaite, who by then had spent a decade being led by a personal motto, ‘say yes more’. Dave dropped me a line after seeing the sleeping bag post and was delighted to hear it had been returned safely. Dave said, “If there was ever a vision for the YesTribe, it would be that its members were mirrors of those trail or river angels who once helped me, a stranger, when I momentarily passed through their lives in the midst of a personal adventure. My belief in humanity was refreshed at each encounter, and now The YesTribe has blossomed into a community that puts kindness and decency first, whether in the midst of an exciting adventure, or the hardest times in life, or like this, a little moment where making someone’s day depends entirely on you willingly offering a few minutes of your day to help someone you’ve never met before.

“It should be noted that Graham, the YesTriber who helped return the sleeping bag to you, got in touch and said he’d like to donate the postage fee you’re sending him to the YesTribe. We’ll gladly put it towards a fund to buy a sleeping bag for someone who wants to go camping, but can’t afford the gear”

If you want to find out more, follow the YesTribe on Facebook and Instagram and visit the SayYesMore website.

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